The Holiday's and Grief | Wesley Hospice

The Holiday’s and Grief

Holidays can be a difficult time for anyone who has lost a loved one. What should be a time for family togetherness, sharing, making new memories and reminiscing on the old ones, holidays can bring back feelings of sadness, loss and emptiness making it difficult to enjoy what should be happy times. There is no simple rule in place to help take away the hurt you are feeling with the absence of that special someone who is no longer with you.

• My hope is the following suggestions will help you better cope with your grief during what should be a joyous time of the year.

• Do what you want, not what you feel you should do. Decide what you can handle comfortably and let family and friends know.

• Allow someone else to do the decorating, baking and cooking this year.

• Recognize your loved one’s presence in the family. Have those you gather with share their favorite memory of your loved one.

• Surround yourself with friends and family who are supportive and understanding of what you are going through.

• Consider doing something special for someone else in your loved ones name. Donate to his or her Favorite charity or organization.

• Have fun! It’s okay and not at all disrespectful to enjoy yourself. Laughter heals the heart which is what my grandmother always says.

Remember it is very natural to feel you may never enjoy the Holidays again. They will most certainly never be the same as they were. However, in time, you will be able to embrace them again. Continuing family traditions is a great way to keep spirits lifted not only for you, but others who may be grieving too.
To find out more about hospice and the grieving process, please contact Hospice Services at Methodist Eldercare at 614-451-6700 or click here for more information