Losing someone close to you is never easy, whether it is your family member, close friend, or pet. Sometimes you fill yourself with regrets of what you could have said and done with that person. There is no life to live with should have, could have, or would have’s.
The death of someone does not mean you have also died. You must live for yourself and your living family/friends. Continue living for that person, telling their story and sharing the mark they have left on your life.
Do not pack up all of their belongings and force yourself to move on. Losing my father was very tough, but seeing my daughter use his harmonicas and guitar that he left behind has somehow put my heart at ease. It seems as if his legacy lives on, and I get to see a little of him every time I hear them.
Signs that occur when one is grieving include sadness, anger, denial, and depression. Below are a few ways to cope with losing someone dear to you. Try them out with an open mind and light heart.
- Write down what you wish you could have said or done with that person. Tie it to a balloon and send it off to them. By doing this, it will make you feel that you have tied up those loose ends. (Also try writing them a letter.)
- Share your memories with someone; it is always an amazing feeling to get feedback from others and also a good shoulder to lean on when times get a little tough. You are not the only person who has been through this. Confide in someone.
- Find yourself. What is your purpose here on earth?
- Try out things you were once fearful of. Live on.
- Find a new hobby, such as painting, blogging, baking or even a dance class. This will give you the opportunity to channel your focus and energy on something new.
- DANCE! Like no one is watching. Celebrate the life of your lost one.
- It is okay, but make sure you end with a smile because you had the opportunity to spend time with that person.
- Meditation can help you find peace with your loss. Sitting in a room with a candle lit and smooth meditation music causes calmness around you.
If you remain depressed and down for an extended period of time, it could be helpful to meet with a psychologist — a professional, not just a friend. Professionals will not judge you and are trained to help you handle guilt, fear, and depression associated with the death of someone close.
What is grief? Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical dimensions.